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The holiday season, whether it’s Christmas, Hanukkah, work parties or family gatherings, is often a time for people to come together to celebrate, remember, and connect.

But if you, or someone close to you, are grieving, these gatherings may feel overwhelming rather than joyous.

National Grief Awareness Week takes place from December 2nd to December 8th, providing a dedicated period for individuals, organisations, and communities to come together to acknowledge and address the various aspects of grief.

Navigating the holiday season after a bereavement whilst also dealing with money worries can be particularly challenging. Here are ways to help you understand your situation – both mentally and financially.

Acknowledge your feelings

It’s okay to feel sad, lonely, or even angry.

Accepting your feelings without judgment can help you process them. Allow yourself to grieve in your own way and at your own pace.

Skipping the celebrations

If it feels right to skip the festivities altogether, don’t hesitate to make that choice, especially if it’s what you need to cope.

However, remember that the world will continue around you, so consider strategies to reduce reminders, like avoiding TV and social media.

You might also ask someone to help with tasks like opening your mail or doing your shopping online to minimise additional stress.

And if you’re struggling to keep up with the financial demands of the holiday period, being open and honest with your loved ones will help them understand your situation.

Sending holiday cards

If you’re sending cards, consider a pre-printed message that shares your loss with your wider circle, while acknowledging the holiday.

An example might be:
“In case you’re not already aware, we wanted to let you know that [name] passed away on [date]. We won’t be sending our usual card this year as we focus on treasuring memories with family. We appreciate your friendship and support.”

Hosting the holiday meal

If you usually host the meal but don’t feel ready to do so fully, you can focus on what you can manage but delegate the rest to others.

This year you can make the gathering about ease rather than tradition – create a menu that won’t cause you additional stress financially or emotionally.

Taking a breather

If things feel too much, make sure you have a quiet space to go to.

Talk to your host in advance and arrange a room where you can have some time alone if needed or let them know that you need an exit plan without announcing your leaving to the room.

Handling gifts

If your loss is recent, you may receive gifts intended for the person who has passed away.

Consider setting these gifts aside or ask someone to help you discreetly remove them.

With permission from the gift-givers, you might even donate these items to a charity in memory of your loved one, whether it’s a raffle prize or a contribution to support those in need.

Honour your loved one’s memory

It may be a nice new tradition to find a way to celebrate their life at Christmas if that feels right.

Writing them a letter, creating a small memorial, or looking through photos can help you feel connected to them and keep their spirit present during the holidays.

Seeking support

Don’t be afraid to lean on friends, family, or support groups. Talking with others who understand your loss can be very comforting.

Our partner, The National Bereavement Service, supports anyone who has experienced a bereavement with practical and emotional information and advice from professional bereavement advisors with lived experience.

Contact us

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